Systems Thinking
Our psychotherapy work and training programs are grounded in natural systems theory, or Bowen Theory.
We help clients develop an understanding of the emotional systems they're a part of, see the patterns and processes that govern those systems, get clear about their role and participation, and gain the courage and confidence to chart a different path.
A Systems Approach to psychotherapy and training.
Psychotherapy and Training from a natural systems approach.
Bowen Theory
Natural Family System
The Foundation of Our Work
Dr. Murray Bowen was one of the first to notice that the family functioned as an emotional unit, more like an organism than anything else, where a change in one place influenced movement in the entire system.
His work promoted a de-focusing on symptoms, and bringing into focus the patterns and processes that develop within a relationship environment over time.
This theory provides a lens and map people can use to navigate the challenges of family, marriage, business, and more.
Key Systems Concepts
Differentiation of Self
The Cornerstone Concept.
A more differentiated person can stay connected to the relationship system while maintaining individuality. They can ride the waves of anxiety within self and within the system and stay on course.
Anxiety & Chronic Anxiety
Anxiety is a response to a threat, real or imagined.
Anxiety from this lens is simply part of being alive. It becomes challenging when our reaction to imagined threats like, "what will others think of me" begin to govern our behavior in relationships.
Family as the Emotional System
Families function as interconnected systems where movement in one member has some affect upon all others, whether people realize it or not, and it is always operating to find some balance and stability. This seems to be true of nearly all relationship systems, including organizations and businesses.
Triangles
When tension builds between two people, they will often involve a third person in order to relieve the stress and tension.
Although this does provide relief, it reinforces ongoing patterns.
Patterns Across Generation
Family patterns, much like genetics, are passed down from one generation to the next. Under stress and tension families tend to repeat patterns, such as conflict, distance, over/under functioning, and anxiously focusing on a child.
Sibling Position
Birth order can influence how people function within relationships. Although there are similarities for a given position much depends on the particular family, the environment, and internal patterns.
What it is...
A way of understanding patterns and processes
Focused on increasing clarity in one's self
Applicable to individuals, families, and businesses
Grounded in a long-term perspective
What it isn't...
Not about fixing and changing others
Not limited to symptoms, crisis, or trauma
Not a set of techniques or quick fixes
Not focused on advice or purposeless change
Meet the Team
Guillermo Cancio-Bello, PhD, is a licensed marriage and family therapist and the founder of The November Institute.
He works with individuals, couples, families, and professionals navigating the relational pressures of adult life — including leadership, family transitions, and the long work of clarifying who one is and how one wants to participate in the world.His clinical approach is grounded in family systems thinking, with particular attention to how patterns formed in one's family of origin continue to shape behavior, decision-making, and relationships over time.
His emphasis is on formation rather than optimization — not making people perform better, but supporting them in becoming more settled, clear, and genuinely themselves. The November Institute is the home for that work.
Guillermo M. Cancio-Bello, PhD
Psychotherapist & Founder
I believe therapy is most effective when clients feel heard, understood, and supported while also being encouraged to grow. I work with individuals across the lifespan, from children to older adults, and have experience supporting clients navigating substance abuse, severe mental health conditions, and the unique challenges faced by first responders.
My approach is person-centered and collaborative, meeting each client where they are while creating a safe space to explore their thoughts, emotions, behaviors, and life experiences. I believe therapy should be tailored to the individual rather than taking a one-size-fits-all approach. While I provide compassion and understanding, I also believe in respectfully challenging clients when needed to help them gain insight, develop healthier coping strategies, and create meaningful change. My goal is to work alongside each client to help them better understand themselves, navigate life’s challenges, and move toward a healthier and more fulfilling life.